Those Gershwin brothers (and everyone else who’s ever employed a tired cliché to make a point) sure got it right when they said that love is blind. I used to think this phrase referred to looks – as in, once you fall in love with someone, they look good to you regardless of whether they work out 15 times a week or mainline Oreo Double Stuffs like it’s the end of days – but after dating a few dudes whose looks (or lack thereof) I never stopped noticing (even after I fell desperately in love with them), I realized that ‘love blindness’ probably refers instead to the hormone-induced phenomenon of no longer noticing your partner’s faults, no matter how detrimental to your relationship they may be, once you’ve entered head-over-heels-ville.
Ignoring your lady’s shortcomings isn’t all bad. If you were always frustrated at the annoying way she chews her gum or the tendency she has to laugh a little too loudly in a movie theater, then you might forget that she’s a great Monopoly player who knows exactly how you like your back massages. But there are some signs that shouldn’t be ignored, lest you miss the fact that your relationship is headed for disaster (or worse: that your relationship will keep you in a perpetual state of emotional turmoil for the rest of eternity).
If you’ve ever had a nagging feeling that something just isn’t right, or if you continually wonder what it would be like to be free of your partner’s ___________ (insert destructive tendency here), then perhaps you’re experiencing flashes of clarity beneath the haze of goo-goo eyes and lovey-dovey heart flutters. Should any of the following give you that “oh, crap” feeling deep down in your gut, then take a cue from the Prez and do a State-of-the-Relationship assessment to figure out where you stand. (Just don’t do it during Lost. That won’t end well.)